If you watch any of the ridiculous reality TV-shows, you’ll see tons and tons of insecure guys claiming to be alpha and using it as an excuse to be assholes.
That’s not what being alpha is about. Being alpha is not about being a bully and it sure isn’t about acting like a clown on national television. Thinking about it, that’s about as far from alpha as you could possibly get.
In the animal kingdom where the term comes from, there is only one alpha. One. Not you and your buddy. One. Only exception to this is the alpha pair consisting of a male and a female. Alphas usually attain their status by fighting. Thing is, we’re not animals.
In our world, an alpha is a natural leader – the kind of person you want to go to war with. Not the one beating you into place.
So what’s a natural leader like, and how can I bring out the leader in me?
It all starts with why. You gotta figured out what your purpose is, what your values are and who you want to be. Having a purpose, a mission will make you act with drive. Determination and direction are qualities people can relate to. If you make it absolutely clear to people what kind of person you are and what you stand for, it’ll make it easier for them to relate to you. Authenticity is the most important trait of a leader.
Nobody wants to follow somebody who doesn’t know where they’re going.
- Identify your own core values and live by them.
- Have a goal and work your ass off to get there.
- Help other people reach their goals and avoid the company of people trying to pull you down.